The age of the overshare



If you’ve read my blog for any length of time you know quite a bit about me. I don’t really hold too much back. What you see is what you get, and all that jazz. I can be honest, and often painfully so. Is that a product of who I am, or the generation I grew up in though? I live in the land of overshare, where every meal we consume, every thought we have, every place we visit, often to an excrutiating degree is documented online. We have foursquare to check in, instagram to post obnoxious pictures filtered to within an inch of their lives, twitter and facebook to get on our soapboxes, and blogs for when our thoughts exceed 140 characters.

And I have an account on each network, and more than one blog. I even have a separate blog for my WEDDING (shameless self promotion for the win?). And while my blogs have fallen into a state of disrepair from lack of use, my poor facebook and instagram have not suffered the same fate in recent months.

I am a product of my generation. But I don’t think that is necessarily a bad thing either. I don’t post/say anything online that I wouldn’t say to someone’s face. I definitely don’t post things online that would get me in trouble with my employer. And I always check with people before I post pictures of them online to make sure they are okay with me posting them. And if they’re not okay with it, I don’t post it. Its as simple as that.

Not everyone is like me though, and I get that, which is why I stay diligent in what kind of pictures I allow people to take of me, and how drunk I allow myself to get around people. You can never be too careful, especially around people you don’t know that well.  Even if someone takes it down, nothing is ever completely deleted from the internet, and everything can be found with enough digging, so just keep that in mind the next time you allow THAT picture to be taken.

Too much?


A few days ago my facebook and instagram feeds were flooded with pictures and posts about the biggest loser winner Rachel Frederickson. She went from 260 pounds to 105 pounds in a 7 month time span, losing the last 45 pounds in the 3 1/2 months between when she left the ranch and the final weigh in at the finale. People were outraged over what they thought was too much weight loss, claiming she had gone from one extreme to the other, and that she should realize she is a role model to impressionable young women due to her celebrity status from the show.

First of all, she isn’t *that* far under her target weight range for her height and age. In fact, she only weighs three pounds under. While it may not be the healthiest thing for her ever, it is a heck of a lot better than the 260 pounds she had on her frame at the start of the show. As someone who used to be drastically under weight and someone who is currently drastically over weight, I can tell you she is far from endangering her health. She was carefully monitored by health professionals for the duration of the show and states in THIS  article that she eats 5 times a day, making sure to include protein in each meal. Does that really sound like unhealthy eating habits?

Second of all, The Biggest Loser is a competition that she wanted to win. She was willing to do what it took to make sure she won. Is it healthy? Long term, probably not. If I was her family, I would keep an eye on her to make sure she balances out and finds a better balance for her body. I don’t think she looks horribly attractive at 105 pounds, but if that is where she stays naturally after returning to a normal eating and exercise regimen, then so be it. It is not for us to judge her. Do I think she looks attractive? Personally, no. But if that is what makes her happy, then so be it. So long as she is healthy (and no one but a medical professional that has a close relationship with her can tell us that),  its not up to us to tell her she isn’t living up to our standard of what she should look like.

All the comments I keep seeing say if she had stuck to around 120 pounds, she would have looked healthier. But as someone pointed out, that would have put her in third place. Where is the outrage over the amount of weight the other two contestants lost? Is it because they’re male, and therefore aren’t held to the same impossibly high standard that women are? That’s a double standard if I’ve ever seen one.

And finally, if you are taking inspiration for maintaining a healthy lifestyle from a competition, I feel sorry for you. Truly sorry. While the goal of the show is to help them get to a healthy weight, at the end of the day, every one of those people wanted to win $250,000. Rachel just had the drive and determination to do whatever it took to win. If you want healthy inspiration for weight loss, there are a whole host of blogs, facebook groups, and websites that create a community of people helping each other reach their weight loss goals. People that will encourage you when you are doing well, and give you the kick in the pants you need when you have a rough couple of days. Seek one out and start your weight loss journey in a healthy and productive manner.